Paralegal Podcast Episode 51

We Should all be so Lucky to Work at This Law Firm

In this solo episode, Ann brings to light an issue that we’ve all experienced, whether it’s working in a law firm, a corporate legal department, or another organization in the legal industry: the negative nelly who complains about everything.

What can you do if you work with someone who even complains about things like your employer wanting to pay for your professional development?

Show Highlights

  • An actionable strategy if you are the negative nelly and complain too much
  • An easy way to get the negative nelly to stop complaining
  • How to avoid becoming a negative nelly yourself

Your Actionable Strategies

  1. Kill them with kindness if you can
  2. Steer clear of the negative nelly and the gossip group
  3. If you’re the negative nelly: stop ruining it for everyone else!

Other Paralegal Resources

Podcast Episode 14 (How the Scarcity Mindset is Hurting the Paralegal Profession)

Podcast Episode 34 (Guest Interview “If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.”)

Podcast Episode 46 (Paralegal Career Mobility)

Podcast Episode 47 (How to Get Your Attorney to Invest in Your Career Development)

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  • Mary Mayer October 18, 2022 at 3:50 pm Reply

    I really enjoy your Podcasts and look forward to them every week! I have a question about what to do with Secretary who “rats” out Paralegals for saying something to them. Shouldn’t Secretaries and Paralegals work together instead of going to Management? Because the person in charge of staff and this secretary are “buddies.” I know I have to just keep my mouth shut and work, but it’s just not right. Makes the working environment terrible. Thank you

    • Ann Pearson October 19, 2022 at 3:43 pm Reply

      Unfortunately, there are too many work environments like that. At one firm, I remember the office manager used to take his “favorites” to the baseball game when the firm’s dugout seats were available. It wasn’t until many years later that I learned it’s not like that at every firm. Your instinct is correct to stay quiet, not just around that secretary. The best piece of advice I heard from a senior partner once was, “I never say something or write something that I wouldn’t be okay seeing it published in the firm’s newsletter or emailed out to the world.”

  • Marti October 19, 2022 at 10:24 pm Reply

    I enjoyed this podcast. It hit a personal note as I was influenced by a “negative Nelly” a long time ago and it caused problems for me at my job. It was an experience that strengthened my character. . . I’m glad that Ann mentioned this in her podcast because it really is great advice for anyone to reflect upon when someone else tries to influence your emotions or actions in a manner that truly does not reflect your personal image.

    • Ann Pearson October 19, 2022 at 10:42 pm Reply

      Unfortunately, I’ve been there! I didn’t want to be “the one” to call them out, so I silently went along. Until I realized, wait! I love my job; this is a great firm to work at…and yet, if you listen to that long enough and surround yourself with those kinds of people, it’s so easy to get sucked down that hole.

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